Wednesday, November 20, 2013

A Rant About Porn

Well, I was in my seat and all set for a nice peaceful journey from Liverpool to Brighton but then the Daily Mail made me cross and now I'm here on my keyboard being the ragey blogger that everyone hopes would just read all the other blogs that have already been much more eloquently written on their chosen subject.

This is what made me angry:

https://twitter.com/lauralexx/status/403138530794549248

A horrible story about two children with ruined lives. That made me angry. Then this ridiculous bit made me angry:


"The Daily Mail’s fight to force the web industry to clean up the internet through its Block Online Porn campaign has led to concerted pressure on service providers, such as BT and TalkTalk."

And then their sodding "side bar of shame" masquerading as a bit for women tipped me over the sodding edge.

So, some things I really need to get off my chest to the Daily Mail:

1. The boy, 13, did not "escape" custodial services... he is 13 and has clearly been so totally messed up in his life that he is in need of severe help. Escape makes it sound like you think he was lucky to do it.

2. Saying things like "The web industry" makes you sound as stupid as you are misogynist. Who are you talking about?

3. I'll tell you who you are talking about: yourselves. Why is porn getting more and more graphic? Because everyday life is getting more and more graphic. Here's a simple breakdown for you:

You are supposed to be a news outlet and yet you have pictures of boobs right there on the same page as a story condemning a child for not knowing porn and rape were wrong. So, a child could read that article and think to themselves... porn is wrong, but looking at these boobs is fine. How are children and young adults supposed to know what kind of boobs are fine to look at?

If a news outlet is showing boobs and stories about women being spoilt by their husbands and pouring their curves into dresses, and that is supposed to be the feminist section, then why shouldn't porn be allowed to go too far as well?

Here's how it is:

News outlet: boobs, vaginas, lots of skin, women as objects to be appraised.
Porn: See above + some men too.

Here's how it should be:

News outlet: No boobs, no vaginas, some skin, no women as objects to be appraised.
Porn: Boobs, vaginas, lots of skin, women enjoying sex.

If you took all the boobs, and curves, and flashes of 'getting out of a car' thigh and vagina off your website and all the other websites that are meant to be about other stuff, then you could leave porn alone because it wouldn't need to go to extreme lengths. If young boys and girls have seen boobs and vaginas from the age of 6 in their newspapers and adverts and music videos then of course they are going to be numb to it and need a little bit more to get them off as and when.

I would far rather allow my children to watch two consenting adults enjoy sex in some well made and well paid porn, then let them look at your summary appraisals of women based on what they look like, what they're wearing and who they married. Grow up Daily Mail. You're not anti-porn you just want to monopolise it.

4 comments:

  1. I was apprehensive clicking on this post because of the title, me being pro-porn (most of it) and all that, but I'm glad I did. The Daily Mail does nothing but incite anger. I wouldn't bother with it anymore. I flirted with the FeMail section for a while until it became clear it often doled out worse sex advice than many other media outlets aimed at women. I won't name names. Try the Telegraph's Wonder Women. Also couldn't agree with you more about wanting to watch female adult performers that are having a good time. It seems audiences are catching on to this idea. Look at the growing success of Make Love Not Porn.com for example. I have many stories I could tell you about my interviews with porn stars that love it, but I'll fill you in on those when we next go for a drink ;-)

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  2. I can't agree more, i believe industry consumes both men and women to desensitise true feelings of love and affection which eats away the moral boundaries in society. Just because it's popular doesn't make it right!If it was me,i would destroy every porn DVD i found.
    My heart goes out to the poor children in the article that you posted, do you think they are to blame or do you think others are responsible?.
    I was hurt like that when i was 7,luckily i knew it was wrong,( never did anything) but it didn't stop my childhood from being robbed. As an adult, i hate being sexual, but by the same token i feel that i can't be intimate with a woman because i feel too dirty to be around a girl i like, so i constantly feel withdrawn. I just wanted to be treated like a normal person, doesn't everyone?

    I'm glad there are women like you around, because kids won't have to go through things like this, I thats why i help people(make me feel more of a man).Keep fighting,your an amazing woman,you just don't know it :)

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  3. I was apprehensive clicking on this post because of the title, me being pro-porn (most of it) and all that, but I'm glad I did. The Daily Mail does nothing but incite anger. I wouldn't bother with it anymore. I flirted with the FeMail section for a while until it became clear it often doled out worse sex advice than many other media outlets aimed at women. I won't name names. Try the Telegraph's Wonder Women. Also couldn't agree with you more about wanting to watch female adult performers that are having a good time. It seems audiences are catching on to this idea. Look at the growing success of Make Love Not Porn.com for example. I have many stories I could tell you about my interviews with porn stars that love it, but I'll fill you in on those when we next go for a drink ;-)

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